Tuesday, May 30, 2017

  I was asked by someone "if you could write a letter to your birth mother what would you say"? I thought about it for a long time and even tried, but this time I thought I would like to share with you the letter I came up with. This is going to be a short blog this time. I hope you enjoy reading it please feel free to leave a comment after you are done. Enjoy the letter.

                                    A Letter To My Mother

 Dear Mother,
 There are no words for me to tell you how thankful I am for my adoption. You carried me for nine months and had to decide what you wanted for me. You knew in your heart that you could not take good care of me and wanted me to have a good life so you gave me up for adoption so I could have a bright future. If you are wondering if I am angry with you because of what you did I would say " no instead I am thankful that you choose life for me and gave me a life and a future that you could have never provided for me". I have people in my life now who love, care, and support me throughout life's challenges. My adoption is very important to me because I got a second chance in life so thank you Mom for thinking about me before yourself.
  In conclusion I would like to let you know that God knew that this was going to happen before anyone else because He had a plan for my life from the very beginning. I would also like to tell you that I am doing well. I graduated high school and I am happy and healthy. I have a dog who loves me and keeps me busy. So, thank you Mom, I am adopted with a great family. You gave me everything I needed to live for Mom.
                                                             Thanks Mom,
                                                              Heather

                                            

                                                                     

Monday, May 22, 2017

                               Two Kinds Of Adoption

   This has been a topic that has been on my mind recently that I would like to share with all of you because I feel like we need to talk about it. The topic that I would like to mention is "adoption". The reason why I would like to talk about this today is because I would like to share with all of you that I too was adopted which I will mention later on. Adoption is a good thing. What people do not understand that there are two kinds of adoption out there. I would agree adoption is not everyone's calling, but it is a choice that people can make.

                                           Spiritual Adoption

Image result for God with His childrenBefore I begin I would like to tell you that Spiritual Adoption is available to who all who will repent and obey God. A few Bible verses that relates to Spiritual Adoption would be: John 1:12 "But to all who believed in Him and accepted Him, He gave the right to become children Of God." Another one would be Romans 8: 15-16 " So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead you received God's Spirit when He adopted you as His own children now we call Him Abba, Father. For His Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God's children". Once we accept Him as our Lord and Savior that is when we are considered His sons and daughters. He never forces anyone to believe in Him it is a personal choice in everyone's life. God wants His children to think and act as He does. After we get baptized and accept Him this represents an agreement between ourselves and God. We are committing our complete lives over to Him and we have to obey His commandments. He loves all His children and always does what is best for them. God wants you to become part of His family whenever you are ready He is waiting for you today to lay your entire life at His feet. He will take care of you. The choice is yours.

Image result for Adoption          Regular Family Adoption  

Before I tell you about myself I thought I would tell you the definition of adoption, when a child has legally become a part of a family other than their biological parents. Did you know that in 1851 Massachusetts was the first state that passed the adoption status. The option to adopt is a way for people who want to become a parent to share their time, love and home with someone whom other wise is alone and not able to be with their birth family for what ever the reason may be. There are lots of people who have been adopted for example Mark Shultz who is a Christian singer. He was only 2 weeks old when he was adopted in Kansas. Mark Shultz wrote a song called "Everything To Me" which is about what Mark would say to his birth mother if he ever met her. 

I would like to share with you that I was 4 when I was adopted from over seas. People often ask me "Are you angry with your birth mother about what she did to you?" The answer that I say is "no, instead I am thankful that she made the choice she did even though it might have been the hardest choice she ever made in her life. She knew in her heart that she was unable to take care of me so she gave me up for adoption." She might not have watched me take my first steps or say "mommy or daddy", but she did however gave me a second chance at life so that I could have a better life with a bright future. A Bible verse that means the most to me is Matthew 25:35 "For I was hungry, and you fed me, I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger and you invited me into your home." The reason why I love this verse is because my adopted parents did this for me. I could not be anymore grateful  for what they have given me everything I needed or ever dreamed of. I was always told " we love you and will always be here for you, you are safe, and we will take good care of you". Just hearing those words made me feel like I was important and I knew that I was safe. If you are thinking about adopting please go to God in prayer and allow Him to guide you in the right direction in the process. All of God's children are important in the world and always will be.
  
  My question for you is what does your adoption mean to you? If you are adopted please share your story and I will read with what you wrote. Thank you for allowing me to share my story with you. Hope you enjoyed what you read. 

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Why Every School Should Have a Puppy Room

Many times school can get very frustrating and stressful for some students so a puppy room would be a safe place where students can go and relax if they are stressed out. Researchers have put students in a room with a dog to see what would happen and the results were found that students were happier and less stressful. There are already some Universities that have a puppy room or have a dog come in to visit because getting a chance to spend time with someone else’s dog can be relaxing and helpful while these students are away from home.  Students are allowed to take as long as they need to in the puppy room depending on their situation. The puppy rooms are supposed to always be a safe place where students can go and visit so they can relax.

            Students who spend more time with a dog everyday are more like to have less stress, their depression lessened, and the doctors saw that both kids and adults had lower blood pressure. There are several things that dogs can teach students like responsibility, loyalty, how to keep a relationship last forever, and what hard work means because taking care of a dog is not an easy task. Students and the dogs can build a close relationship which might be able to help them in the future. Students are able to focus on having fun instead of focusing on their problems which can be helpful.

            Sometimes students can get judged by other students which can lower their self-esteem so spending time with a dog can reassure the student that they will never be judged.  Dogs will always accept people for who they are. Whenever we want to talk or have a conversation sometimes we feel like the other person is either ignoring us or does not care about what we have to say because people are so focused on themselves so people who go to the puppy room can know that when they need to say something that is bothering them the dog is listening through the whole thing and never ignoring us. If the student needs to cry then the dog will be by there for comfort and knowing that they will never leave our side. Dogs might not be able to talk to us in person, but at least we can know that they are great listeners and we do not have to feel like we are getting judged. Dogs are there to love us for who we are not there to judge us everyday.

            Whenever a disaster like a flood, tornado, or other bad situations happen sometimes trained therapy dogs come into a town so they help people deal with the mess or if they lost a loved one then the dog can be there for comfort.  The dog can help the people focus more on the positive things instead of the negative through the disaster that they just went through. There are some search dogs who come to the disaster site with their partner and both of them search for the people who are missing as best as they can.  Dogs can also help people clean up the mess and talk to others about how they are feeling after what has happened with them. Disasters happens all the time so dogs are always open to care about people which shows that dogs do care about the people who are suffering. In schools there might be a student who has a certain disability where they need to have a dog with them throughout the day so having a dog in a school would be a great help. Dogs have helped people of all ages depending on their disability. Dogs can make people’s days better when things are not going their way.

            The reason why people would find this puppy room helpful  is because they will feel like they are accepted and they can focus on the positive side of life.  If the students are finished with their test or homework then with permission by an adult the students are allowed to go the room.  Students can build a relationship with the dogs and with other students as well.  Dogs can actually help students get their day through and if they need to just be alone with the dog that is fine, but there has to be an adult there in case there is an emergency or if the students needs an opinion on something. Students who have disabilities will find this very helpful in the end.

            There are some downsides to having a puppy room in a school because at the end of the day when everyone wants to go home no one will be able to take the dog out when it needs to as well as the dog needs dinner and no one would be able to give it to them.  Someone would have to make sure that the dog is all updated with their shots and vaccinations so they would have to take time off to take the dog to the vets.  Dogs never want to be left alone so someone would have to stay with the dog instead of going home.  Teachers might give the students a limited time just because they do not want their students to miss class or getting a bad grade because they spent most their time with the dogs. There are solutions to this situation, but someone needs to be committed to doing that job. People who are taking care of the dog they could choose different people to do each job.  The other solution that you could do is having someone take the dog with different people instead of leaving them at the school. These problems can be easily solved by having a great attitude and a willing heart if dogs are important to you.

            Every school should have a puppy room because it is a safe place where students can go if they need it in their life.  We all have our bad days and this room can help people get through days or even weeks. Dogs are lovable, good listeners when there is no one who understands what we are going through, but we can know that the dogs do care about the things that we say. Students will not feel judged when they come, but instead be accepted for who they are.  Depending on the situation that is going on in the student’s life the students are allowed to stay with the dog as long as they need to. Students get to decide if they want to go to the dog room or not.  There is a saying that a dog is a man’s best friend and that is completely true because dogs teach us life lessons and are always by our side when we need them.  It does not matter how many students are in the room the bigger the group the more fun that the students will have.
  Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to read my blog. I would like to leave you with some questions that you will be able to answer and I will read it when I look at it. The questions are: "Do you agree or disagree? Why?"


           


                    About Me

Hello, my name is Heather. I was 4 when I was adopted from over seas. I graduated high school in 2015. Things I enjoy doing are spending time with family and friends, being outside, taking care of my pets, and writing. I will be leaving questions at the end of each blog so you will be able to answer the questions. Thank you for allowing me to share with you my opinions. Hope you enjoy reading the blogs I post!